#30daysblogging Judgments and Opinions.


Day 26

Post is an idea from Lia, a nice and kind mom-to-be!

How do you value a person you just met? Did you judge them the moment you shook your hand with them? Or the moment they made their first comment?

Some people judge someone from their handshakes, others from the way they dress or the brands attached on their shoes/bags, while others judge someone from their eye contacts or from their dialects, etc, etc…

From their appearances

I don’t judge people from their appearances, but I have built a wall with people who wears high heel with full made-up face to a theme park, and  to those who don’t eat food from hawker center. I have a tendency to not be friends with high maintenance girls. I don’t judge them, it’s their choice of life, but I just can’t handle them.

Thankfully I don’t have one. But whenever Bandi’s friends introduce some girlfriends (btw the girlfriends from Bandi’s friends changed from time to time and now I’m at a point where I don’t remember the names anymore) I indirectly judge whether i could hit it off with them based on what they wear. There is high percentage of a chance to get along when she doesn’t wear stilettos and Prada bag. So… Am I judgmental? You tell me.

Wait, wait… do I have a friend who owns branded bags? OF COURSE, DUH! And I still befriend them. I’m just saying that usually I don’t spend time getting to know a stranger who’s more likely doesn’t have anything in common with me. But if I had to spend time with a mutual friends who wore designer bag, I would still try make the conversation. Get it?

I don’t judge but I presume my opinion thus I don’t want to waste my time.

But let’s say, I met a girl who wore prada bag and chanel stiletto (if there’s such thing) that is also a feminist, active in animal welfare, carefree, able to eat one pan of pizza and fun to be with; I would so gonna get to know her better and be her friend. But seriously, slim chance, my friend…

Let’s just say I’m an opinionated bitch for that department. Sorry. Maybe someday I’ll get my karma for this.

What I’m trying to say is… everyone tends to group up with people who are likely similar to them, and that’s normal. :)

It’s impossible not to judge someone, but it is always nice to be surprised about how wrong we could be sometimes. :) I would love to be wrong sometimes. I still do believe in the fact that there are good in everyone.

From the first conversation

Most of the times, I judge someone from our first conversation. When they talked about how insecure they were or how unhappy they were, or how they kept complaining about stuffs, I would definitely wish not to ever encounter that person again. I just hate hate hate hate HAAAAATE to be around pessimists.

Second, I hate girls who had to be validated by men; i.e. girls who kept complaining why they were still single, and so desperate for someone to marry them. GO F YOURSELF.

Third, I hate girls who acted weak. OMAGAHHH those are the worst species!!!

Fourth, I had never given (and will never give) any second chance getting to know a man who said misogynistic comments, such as “women are destined to stay in the kitchen” or “I’ll just find me a wife when I’m rich cause any women would want to date me when I’m rich.” GO SHOVE A GUN ON YOUR ASS. Oh, and pull the trigger please.

I so judge someone from the first conversation. What if I was wrong? Well, let’s just say it was my loss then.

Would you judge someone who…?

Ok, now let me give you some what-ifs and please answer them on the comments. I don’t have giveaway for this, but I hope you spend time answering this.

1. What crossed your mind when you met a girl who wore tank top with an un-shaved armpits?

2. What crossed your mind when you met your friend’s new boyfriend who picked your friend up without stepping out from his car? He kept honking at your friend and shouted “let’s go!”

Well, it’s not that I asked you to judge people, let’s just state opinions. Do give me your honest opinion about what crossed your mind at the first time.

Cheers,

May, the not-so-proud opinionated beyatch.

27 thoughts on “#30daysblogging Judgments and Opinions.

  1. gua juga paling males kalo ketemu orang yang ngomongnya pesimistik dan penuh negativity. males!

    to answer your questions:

    1. What crossed your mind when you met a girl who wore tank top with an un-shaved armpits?

    – someone to bully! huahaha. pasti seru nih buat diledekin. :P

    2. What crossed your mind when you met your friend’s new boyfriend who picked your friend up without stepping out from his car? He kept honking at your friend and shouted “let’s go!”

    – a jerk.

  2. I would like to answer…
    1. Jorok! Hari gini ga perlu shaving udah ada Veet gitu loh.. Cream peluruh bulu ga nyampe 5 menit udah bersih.
    2. Sombong! Don’t you wanna get to know about ur gf’s friends?

    Biasalah orang Indo, biasanya gua shake-hand kak. Kalo ga mantep, gua menilai mereka ga PD or insecure hehe. Ato takut tangan gua kotor? *siapin wet tissue di tas*

  3. 1. What crossed your mind when you met a girl who wore tank top with an un-shaved armpits?

    jorok atau pelupa atau mungkin mendalami ajaran tertentu yang gue gak tau. Masih mau ngobrol lah, sapa tau fun2 aja, tapi jelas gue gak bakal konsen, gara2 liat yang melambai2 di ketiak.

    2. What crossed your mind when you met your friend’s new boyfriend who picked your friend up without stepping out from his car? He kept honking at your friend and shouted “let’s go!”

    kalau nglaksonnya terus menerus, mukanya sepet dan ngomongnya bentak2 jelas langsung nganggep cowok ini gak menghargai orang lain :D. Tapi gue kenal orang yang suka gitu dengan maksud bercanda sih, inside joke-nya mereka gitu :D

  4. duh cewe2 yg pake high heels and full make up ke theme park itu….. pokony not my type deh! hahaha
    kalo gw sering ilfeel sm cewe yg life style and maintenance selangit ga sesuai kemampuan,
    tapi gw ga berhak ngejudge sih, tiap org beda prioritasnya :)

    1. What crossed your mind when you met a girl who wore tank top with an un-shaved armpits?
    ini sih uda pasti gw lgsg kasitau org yg lg jalan bareng gw (seringnya gw jalan brg nyokap / temen) suru ngeliat n ketawain bareng! hwahaha
    dan kalo ada org lain yg jalan sm tuh “cewe tanktop bulu ketek” ikutan jd korban gw ketawain jg :P
    menurut gw cm weird aja,tp ga sampe lgsg self defense kok hehe

    2. What crossed your mind when you met your friend’s new boyfriend who picked your friend up without stepping out from his car? He kept honking at your friend and shouted “let’s go!”
    gue pasti suruh temen gue putusin! tapi itu kalo cowony begitu setiap ngedate yah, maksudnya emang tuh cowo ga sopan ga mau kenal sm keluarga cewenya berarti..
    kalo semisal emg lg buru2 (ex: mau ke airport ud mepet or mau ke RS ada yg sakit kritis) sih exception deh :D

    kalo komen u ttg cewe yg hobi posting di sosmed minta dinikahin gmn may? hwahahaha
    Gw SEDIH BANGET sm cewe model begini, dan skrg lg marak di path gw (temen kampus n sekolah yg seumuran gw smua, masi 24 uda kebelet nikah makk).. entah apa yg salah dgn cewe2 itu T____T

  5. Hair or no hair, that’s not the question to me.

    It’s not the looks, nor the attire and not even someone’s philosophy of life, but the words which determine my first impression; too talkative (no), poignant (yes), cliché (no), perky ( yes), priggish ( no), funny (yes).

  6. Hi May,

    jadi pingin ikutan comment liat today’s blogging hehehe
    yang pertama : hmmmm seblm comment apa2 sih yg pasti gw liat ketek gw dulu pastiin ketek gw aman terkendali hahahahaha
    yg kedua : tuh cowo kayanya perlu diajar adat deh .. & definitely not worthed for my friend

  7. 1. What crossed your mind when you met a girl who wore tank top with an un-shaved armpits?
    Sumpah.. jorok banget. dan gua pasti Ilfil! Hahaha.. krn temen kantor gua ada yang model begini. *tepok jidat* Tapi karena temen, gua kasih tau dia.. better di shave. kalo emang gak mau, better gak pake tank top daripada malu2in diri sendiri. wkwkwkw

    2. What crossed your mind when you met your friend’s new boyfriend who picked your friend up without stepping out from his car? He kept honking at your friend and shouted “let’s go!”
    Suruh putusin trus tendang mobilnya. *berasa jagoan* hahahaa..

  8. 1. Tergantung tingkat kelebatan. Kalo masih pendek-pendek dan nggak banyak sih ya positive thinking aja, mungkin emang belom sempet cukur/wax. Walopun kalo gue sih mending gak pake tank top kalo emang belom sempet cukur. Kalo lebat macam eva arnaz gitu males banget deh, eeeewwww… *lempar mbak-mbak narsih ke cewek itu*

    2. Cowok gak sopan. Nggak perlu lah sampe nglakson-nglakson gitu, di WA atau di telepon aja kan cukup, gak perlu 1 RT tau kalo mau pergi.

  9. 1. mungkin piara bulu ketek kali May biar sexy… hal ini lumrah loh di Cina liat ce cakep tank top pas angkat tangan keteknya lebat hushahahaha rata2 gitu, smp gw mikir apa budaya sana piara bulu ketek hihihi

    2. dari dulu nyokap selalu wanti2 jgn pernah mau pergi sama cowo modal klakson artinya nggak menghargai loe sbg cewe harusnya sih baik2 turun dari mobil masuk ke dalem ijin pamit sama ortu/wali cewe even si ce udah gede juga lebih ke etika sih. Kalau main bin bin bin seolah2 kaya mungut psk dr pinggir jln kt nyokap. Dia paling anti kl ada cowo dtg kerumah jemput gw model gitu maunya yah turun, masih respek sama org tua secara ngajak anaknya pergi. Kalau dia nggak begitu berarti di rumahnya sama ortu sendiri dia pun nggak menghargai. Berani jemput anak orang berani juga pulangin dgn tanggung jawab, jgn di lempar plg dm tmn lain hahaha gara2 omingan nyokap gw jd gitu deh mikirnya hihihi disimpulkan co itu kurang etika, sopan santun sm tanggung jawab

  10. 1. Tergantung jumlah bulket nya..huahahaha.
    Klo visible dari jarak mayan jauh, diiih jorok. Ogah deket2.
    Wong yg cuma item2 aja gue geli apalagi ampe yg berbulu.
    Seriously g ga abis pikir ama cewe2 yg udah tau keteknya item tapi masih pede aja pake tank top. Biasanya sih gue jadi ngejudge yg jelek2 deh klo udah gitu.

    Klo cuma yg sehelai 2 helai dan baru kliatan klo lu posisinya deket dan kebetulan dia lagi angkat tangan ya mungkin dia sendiri ga sadar klo bulketnya keliatan.
    G sendiri pernah sih ga nyadar klo bulket g dah panjang
    .muahahahah..keliatan temen gue yg lngsung jijik gitu mukanya pas lagi sama2 bernang…hahahahah jadi buka aib gini gua.

    2. not a gentleman. Period.
    Eh kecuali sikonnya emang perlu buru2 yeee. Dan honkingnya masih dalam tahap wajar.

  11. Yayy thank you! I enjoyed reading this! Ok skr giliran gw jawab..

    1. What crossed my mind: “eeewwww”
    Translation: gross, unhygienic.. I don’t care if some think unshaven armpit is sexy.. Not for me. Hahaaa..

    2. What crossed my mind: “kok gitu sih. Such an inconsiderate guy, probably too huge an ego for his own good.” and I’ll feel concerned for my friend..

  12. Um. Why are unshaven armpits gross? It’s just hair. And why was the question only related to girls and not guys? Unshaven armpits is not an indication of bad hygiene. As long as the person doesn’t reek, I am okay with it.

    I try very hard not to judge people, but it’s difficult. I am super judgmental to people who are rude to the elderly, or any rude people, really. That kind of ‘bo manner’ attitude is very unbecoming. I also feel a bit uncomfortable hanging out with high maintenance people. Most of the time, they have this unspoken competition thingy between them, on how many branded bags you own, the kind of clothes they wear, what shoes that are currently ‘in’ etc. It’s exhausting, though the real reason is because I just don’t see the point of spending that much money on designer stuff. Obviously not all of them are like that, but from my experience, 90% of them are exactly like that. I’m more comfortable hanging out with bookish and more reserved people. esp when they’re fans of Tolkien, or Ayu Utami.

  13. 1. ewwww gross!!! gw sampe ga tau mau komen apalagi selain itu haha
    2. well, gw pasti kepo2 dulu tanya temen gw apa emang orangnya kaya gitu n kenapa si temen gw ini emang suka. trus baru gw pelan2 tanya apa emang orangnya kaya gitu (refer ke pertanyaan lo) dan tanya apa dia ga masalah dgn karakter si cowo yg ky gt,dan kalo dia ga masalah yaudah lah. toh itu juga pacarnya dia. kalo gw sok larang2 ntr dibilang ikut campur lg haha.

    btwbtw, mnrt gw si postingan orang di sosmed tergantung lingkungan juga, kalo temen2 seumurannya pada kebelet kawin semua ya pasti kebawa, tapi kalo temen2 selingkungannya santai2 ya (harusnya) sih ikutan nyantai.. so choose your inner circle wisely! haha

  14. Mau jawab pertanyaan :
    1. Yang terlintas di benakku pasti, ni cewe emang malas cukuran ato sekarang lagi trend ya?
    2. Tergantung kondisi…. kalo jemputnya di pinggir jalan dekat lampu merah ya wajar…hahahaha… kalo jemputnya di rumah ya… pasti langsung mikir ni temenku bego banget ya mau sama cowo yang jerk kayak gitu?

  15. ahahahaahaa tertarik ikut ngomen.
    Pertanyaan 1 : …..(none) jujur ga kepikiran apa-apa hahahaa entah mengapa
    Pertanyaan 2 : Pasti gw mikir “cih, si kampret” hahahaha

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